Kittens LOVE Lavender, they HATE Peppermint

I thrive off being busy. I’m more efficient with my time, I get more done, and I have such a feeling of accomplishment because I am so productive.

Getting married within the next year, and with family planning EVER on my mind, I felt the need to start to think “what will I do for extra income when we want to start a family”. My income will continue to grow of course from my day job, but with my student loans, wanting to be able to give my family the best life possible, I feel an extra side income will be helpful for at least the immediate future.

Currently bartending on the side is very gratifying, I love meeting new people, the hustle and bustle of a busy shift and the energy boost that comes from it… But it is also VERY taxing, tiring and takes a toll when I work late and have to get up at 7 am to work out and then work my normal day. While I will continue to bartend for the next very long while, I wanted to find something that could bring in some extra money NOW before the wedding, and help with a house, savings fund, life, pay off my loans a little more… you name it.

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In my search for something extra I could do, without taking up too much of my VERY limited free time, and something that would also benefit my life, health and mental wellbeing, I started to look into the new-age Tupperware parties… ItWorks, Beach body, Roden & Fields, Stella & Dot, etc…

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In doing my research, I wanted to find something i truly believed in, could use myself and would feel comfortable “sharing” to my friends, family & strangers.

Initially, I was approached by a girl on Instagram, who I didn’t know, to “try her products, because I’m gorgeous & she wanted me for her profile…” #Flattered – Ok… I’ll bite… So she gave me the spiel, naturally it was a sales pitch to BUY her products which were ItWorks – When she wanted me to BUY the products to then try, to then be used on her profile, I immediately said no… because #BudgetLife – I am on a VERY strict budget…

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So then she immediately went into her “distributor life sales pitch” –  which knowing the direct sales business very intimately and how MLM’s work I knew how to do my homework, what questions to ask and also knew that company wasn’t right for me…

In doing my homework, I reached out to a VERY old friend, who I knew used to work for ItWorks and also was/is very into the health world.

I asked her what she thought, she told me and also told me what she was into now.

 

Which is the Essential Oil line doTerra – I did my homework, talked to my council and decided this might be something really great for me, emotionally, mentally, physically and financially.

So I ordered a starter kit… Why not right?

I figured Essential Oils are supposed to be really good for you, and that I can use a little serenity, energy, etc…

When I got my oils, I called my friend, and she told me some immediate things I HAD to try… Lemon in Water…. WHO KNEW that would help with ALLERGIES??? Inhaling Peppermint??? Gives you an IMMEDIATE energy & mood boost! Frankensense & Lavender??? Calms your skin! Lavender?? can HELP relax you, sleep, calm down…

FYI – for those concerned about the kitties... They are my first and foremost thought. These oils are safe for them to be around… They will leave the room if they don’t like the smell, but as long as they aren’t locked in the room, don’t ingest or the oils are used directly on them, they’re A-OK! So far we’ve learned, the kitties LOVE Lavender and do NOT like peppermint, lemon, frankensense.

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So I’m giving it a shot and so far I’m SO IN LOVE… I’ve been using oils for a week and couldn’t be happier! If i’m tired? I inhale some peppermint? I feel sick? I take some On Guard! If I’ve have a bad night and need some calm? I inhale Lavender and rub it on my wrists & feet!

The biggest selling point for me? I’ve had these freaking UGLY AS HELL Dry patches of skin around my mouth… Only on one side…. Nobody knew how to help it, or what it was… So that was my FIRST request, “How do i fix this???” Well… after 3 nights of mixing Frank & Lavender in my nightly moisturizer… My face is 90% better!

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So there you have it. Proof. Essential Oils are absolutely LIFE. Right now, I am just enjoying the benefits and hoping my stories will inspire others to choose HEALTH, serenity, emotional health, and SO SO SO MUCH more!

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28 is really close to 30…

I turn 28 on Sunday. Which honestly, I don’t know if I’m super excited for or super scared for.

27, was a pretty crazy year with some incredible Highs and super terrible lows.

The love of my life asking me to *finally* marry him, celebrating our engagement party (this past weekend) with our family and friends, paying off my tax & credit card debt, planning our wedding, making a significant dent in the principle of my student loans (after reading the Total Money Make Over”, major birthday celebrations, a girls trip to Sonoma Valley, making some pretty incredible new friends and bringing home our second fur baby were among the highest of the highs, I’ve ever experienced in my entire life.

But there were also some of the lowest lows… There was uncertainty, stress, anxiety and depression. There was stress about money (when is there not) and the all consuming thought that I will NEVER pay off my student loans… There was the desire to have a mental breakdown when life & work got to be too much and at points throughout the year becoming a person I didn’t know, nor liked very much at all!

I became a bundle of stress, anxiety and depression – I put on weight, my skin broke out and I was all consumed by life, but mainly the fact that I was just waiting for the next step and had no idea or control over when it came… Wondering all the W’s consumed my thoughts, conversations, emotions and every little ounce of me…

Waiting to get engaged was one of the hardest experiences (yes I’m aware how fortunate I am) I’ve ever had to go through. As a TYPE A – uber planner, not knowing when, where, how nearly killed me… But in the end, it was SO FUCKING WORTH IT.

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My best advice to those going through this currently… Hold out… The best guys take their time to truly think things through.

In hindsight, which is a bitch for always being 20/20, I am so very grateful he did it when HE and he alone was ready, because I know in my heart of hearts he wants to spend his life with me, just as much as I want to spend it with him and THAT is where my sureness and calmness comes from, the comfort of it all…

(When in doubt, hug something fluffy)

I am glad I never (truly) resorted to ultimatums (which wouldn’t have worked anyway, nor would I want to start my future as partners like that) and despite the fact that I couldn’t see it then, I am glad things unfolded as they did. Naturally, Organically, and right for US.

The minute we got engaged and A asked me to share the rest of his life with him, all the stress of the past year faded away. People began to tell me I looked “lighter” and was “glowing”… I seemed “Different” and “Calm”…

As a normally chaotic mess of a human, my best friend E, just last week told me I seemed “very calm” and while she didn’t want to question it, was slightly concerned… To which I replied, its a good thing, all feels right…

Which was all 100% true. Having that ring on my finger, hearing the words “Will You Marry Me” and the free reign to plan a wedding… thus taking the next steps towards our future gave me a sureness, certainty and a level of calm I can never explain. I TRULY believe I was meant to be married and having a partner to make life decisions with feels right.

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Major Shout out to my Girlfriends, Mom, Aunt & Sisters for dealing with my chaotic self during this period of time. Being on the other side, I thank you for you being my sounding board and calming presence in my life.

Additional and even MAJOR Shout out to A, for whom STILL wants to marry me after seeing me at what I am pretty sure was my worst over the past 12 months… *Insert Rolling Eye Emoji*

So, as I approach the fateful day (June 25th) of turning 28, I say… BRING. IT. FUCKING. ON! Bring it ON! 27 was another year of true adult growing pains, and while at the end of each year, I feel I have a better handle on this whole ADULTING & life thing, I can honestly say after this past year, I’ve got this thing on lock down…. (but seriously though, I have no idea what i’m doing, I’m making it up as I go along… :)) . 28 is going to be the most magical, incredible and LIFE CHANGING year… I can’t wait to see what it has in store for me, other than the one known truth that on 9.8.2018, I will be gaining a husband, another set of parents & siblings and another last name…. Because really, one just isn’t enough sometimes…

God, I’d hate to be that Turkey!

Summary of the story? I am Thankful I am not the turkey on the table, but that the turkey sacrificed its life to be the center piece of this delicious meal!

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I had just told him, he was NOT invited to Thanksgiving Dinner and would have to stay home… He was not happy…

Today, I called my grandparents to wish them a Happy Thanksgiving, since I won’t see them and wanted to make sure I was able to catch up with them before the holiday. (I know what you’re thinking… I am the best granddaughter ever… Its really hard being SO perfect and the golden child!)

Naturally they all asked “How are you?” To which I answered honestly, truthfully and surprisingly, “REALLY AMAZING.” It made me think, for the first time in my life, I can honestly say I am truly happy and mostly content. I have an awful lot to be thankful for and thought it would be nice to express this gratitude on the eve of the day of  we give thanks!

I think sometimes we forget how much we have to be thankful for, we get caught up in the nuances and minor catastrophes of our every day lives that we don’t always see the big picture and how much we actually have to be grateful for! I encourage, and implore you, as I have here, to take a moment and think about that you’re thankful for… Its OK if its in-between the turkey and the apple pie or after your 3rd mimosa, just making sure you do it. It is humbling and a nice reminder of all you have…Count your blessings on this day, because it is, after all, the reason the Turkey gave its life!


I am thankful for:

  1. I am thankful my very handsome, smart and patient Boyfriend, who loves me and is the rock I need to stabilize my rather chaotic existence.
  2. I am thankful for my Parents, for mainly giving me life, but for also everything else under the sun and for always being there for me and for being my best friends!
  3. I am thankful my Sisters who are the craziest people I know, and are absolutely, smart, beautiful and incredible! I wouldn’t be me without their crazy asses.
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    BUT WHY ARE THEY SO CUTE???? #KittenGoals #Blessed

    I am thankful my adorable and insanely fluffy fur babies, without whom life would be incredibly boring

  5. I am thankful for the addition this year of Dash to our family. We didn’t know it, but he was what was missing from our little family!
  6. I am thankful my Grandparents who I am very fortunate to have 2 sets of and who are incredibly strong guiding forces in my life
  7. I am thankful my incredibly generous In-Laws, being 150 miles from my own parents, I am very grateful to them so close by, should I need a “parent”.
  8. I am thankful my Close Girlfriends who I can always count on to enable my crazy
  9. I am thankful for my Close Girlfriends who I can always count on to defuse my crazy
  10. I am thankful for The Loreali to my Rory
  11. I am thankful for My Aunts, Uncles and Cousins
  12. I am thankful that fact that Gilmore Girls is coming back for 6 hours of Stars Hallow greatness!
  13. I am thankful that I am able to work / do a job I love and build something incredible with my family and boyfriend. I am so proud of where we are today and how far we’ve come! It is truly special what we’ve built and the best is yet to come!
  14. I am thankful for the fact that Greys Anatomy is on its 13th Season and STILL going strong!20161119_165230414_ios
  15. I am thankful that there are regular Harry Potter Marathons on Freeform (ABC Family)
  16. I am thankful for Netflix and that Binge watching is a socially acceptable thing and encouraged
  17. I am thankful for the foliage and living in beautiful New England
  18. I am thankful that Tequila is “Good for you”
  19. I am thankful that I found a workout plan that works for me and I LOVE doing!!
  20. I am thankful pizza is LIFE as are cheeseburgers and Tacos… #TacoLife
  21. I am thankful for my beautiful, warm home
  22. I am thankful to be able to live in the greatest city on earth (one that I definitely don’t take advantage of…)
  23. I am thankful to be able to give awesome holiday gifts this season to my loved ones and to have the ability to work and earn and pay my bills as well!
  24. I am thankful for my bed and cuddly kitten in said bed
  25. I am thankful for my life
  26. I am thankful for my loves
  27. I am thankful.

What’re you thankful for???

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These kitties give me life…. And the best cuddles!

Sick.

The cat pics have nothing to do with the post except for the fact that humanity sucks and cats are cute…

Today I am sick… As I am most of the fall and early winter. Some pe20161023_002206562_iosople get strep, others get bronchitis or the flu.. I get sinus infections. Which are super fun because not only do the hurt like hell, make my brain mushy and make it overall difficult for me to function as a human; but they also make my face so puffy, that I look like the epitome of a sinus infection… I. AM. SINUS WOMAN.

But today I am not only sick from a sinus infection, I am sick of everything. I am sick of my friends and family on Facebook attacking each other over their politics and choice of president. I am sick of scrolling through my news feed and seeing people I love and care about posting dumb shit, just to start a riot. I am sick of the SAME stuff constantly on the news real and media stream… OK, Shit was said, done or not done… GET FUCKING OVER IT… Its over with…

 

While I too, am at fault for posting and engaging, I’ve stopped because my involvement doesn’t bring anything good. Involving myself in this bullshit did was waste my already too little and precious time, and caused me major anxiety. I am too smart and too busy to get wrapped up in this crap and so are ALL of you… And if you’re not, well then, can we trade places?

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“Everything the light touches, is ours”

My opinion will not change yours, and yours will not change mine… Posting rhetoric, fodder and video clips from 2000 will not change it either. What boggles my mind is why the general population feel the need to put down others who don’t share their opinions. I know politics brings out the worst in people but NEVER have I felt the need to unfriend / unfollow some of my own FAMILY members and VERY CLOSE family friends… Its just disgusting! Share what you want to share, do what you want to do, but don’t attack those who don’t feel the same way in your caption…Do you feel that threatened or have such little faith in your own candidate, that you need to attack others?? Do you know that debating and putting down your family and friends probably won’t be the deciding factor in whether or not your candidate wins? Do you know that no matter who wins, we’re only stuck with that person for 4-8 years… but you’re stuck with your family, those you have insulted and viciously attacked for LIFE?

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He. Is. Flawless… <3

I’ve silently sat and watched as my own family has attacked one-another and to be honest. I was pretty saddened by it. They will tell you its the name of the game and all in good fun, but family should agree to disagree or stick by one another. Not attack, belittle and ridicule!

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My Model Girl – Princess Piper

I am sick of this election. I am sick of the candidates. I am sick of the drama and the stupidity. I am sick of the media and the constant barge of bullshit… I am sick of the conversations that happen at my bar and the fights that nearly break out over the beliefs of others…

If there is ONE thing DRUNK people should not talk about its POLITICS… I am just sick of everything.

 

I am sick of the negativity and hate that is going on.I am sick to my stomach on this one. I can’t handle all the awful things that are going on in our once great country. You can’t listen / watch the news or scroll through a feed without being greeted with something truly awful, followed by something else awful. I am sick of the wrongful deaths, the lack of respect for those who wear a uniform, the abused animals and kids, the shootings, the lack of respect for each other and all the fucking CLOWNS.

But really what is up with these freaking clowns? Seriously…. What other country has a “Clown” Problem and citizens who have to be told to be vigilant because clowns might pop up out of no where and attack them? When did life become a bad horror movie?

I am just so sick of it all… But mainly I am just so sad. I am losing my faith in humanity,  and deeply saddened by the lack of respect and over all common decency. So here are some cute cat pics because they’re adorable and society sucks…

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Because, Love really is all you need!

 

Messy Bun, Gettin Stuff Done!

New Favorite Boost / Training Manual…. #GirlBoss by Sophia Amoruso

Past 3 days: 4 loads of Laundry (folded and put away), Clean House, Dishes done each day, worked a double (day job and night job on Tuesday), successfully completed a major project, kept up with all other responsibilities and client care, and Didn’t Lock any Cats in the CLOSET!

#GirlBossInTraining #Adulting #IGotThis #GettinItDone

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Cheers to Success! 

I aspire to be a #GirlBoss. I aspire to be strong. I aspire to be confident in my convictions. I aspire to be able to convey a message without coming off as a bitch. I aspire to run a company. I aspire to be a #WomanWhoWorks, balancing home, work & life. I aspire to do it all and have it all!

Being a woman in business is hard. You have to be strong, but not too strong, You have to act look like a butterfly and sting like a bee, you have to be tough, but not too tough, you stick to your guns, but not fire them, you have to command the room, but raising your voice can make others think you’re “getting emotional”… Basically you have to find that happy medium of  steadfast, firm, friendly, direct and ALWAYS. I repeat. ALWAYS. keep. your. emotions. in. check.

When a man is steadfast, strong, direct or firm, he is held in high regard and respected… When a woman does it? She is a bitch, feisty, shrill and “just being emotional”… To add insult and injury to all of that, if the woman is young, its a complete game changer…

“Oh, she is just young…”, “She’s just trying to make her voice heard”, “She doesn’t know how to communicate, shes too naive.” “What a bitch!”

I am 27 years old, I am a woman, I am a girlfriend, daughter, sister, friend, I have a part-time job, I have a house that requires cleaning, cats that require feeding and laundry that needs to be done. My man friend has this weird desire to wear clean clothes…. Whatever… I am a director in my company and hold a job where I wear MANY hats and a lot on my plate,  I get mad, I get frustrated, I am young, I am naive, and I am still learning. Sometimes I do get stressed, sometimes I get overwhelmed, sometimes I have trouble balancing it all, sometimes I cry, sometimes life gets too hard and sometimes I get accidentally drunk on a Monday Night…. Shit Happens, ok?

As I was writing this past paragraph, this song kept playing (I’m a Bitch, By Meredith Brooks) in my head… It is officially my new theme song! “I’m a Bitch, I’m a Lover, I’m a Cat Mother, I’m a Child, I’m a Sinner, I’m a Saint… I don not feel ashamed!” Take me as I am!!

One of my many blessing in life is that I went to work for my father, right out of college, and since then nearly 6 years later, we have built something incredible! I am incredibly grateful to have a wonderful mentor and img_2442guiding force in him; because I am young and I am still learning, I am working on controlling my emotions, I am trying to make my voice heard and sometimes I do come off as a bitch… But my BIGGEST Pet Peeve is when it is used as an excuse for my behavior. Which is why I continue to learn, grow and work at better having control of all things.

I LOVE my job, I love working and building something with my family, I love my customers, I love learning about different businesses and helping them grow and most importantly I truly LOVE learning more about being a woman in business!

Over the last 5 years, I have learned and grown so much, but I still have so much to learn. I need to learn how to communicate better with the different departments and I need to learn how to make things happen so that it works for all, instead of a few.

Over the last 5 months, we’ve engaged with a new CRM system, that has completely changed how I operated. It has automated emails, sent reminders and allowed me to have all the data I need on a customer at the click of a button. I had dreams of the ability to enter information once and have it populate in multiple areas / fields. I had visions and aspirations of achieving a more streamlined administrative process, one which I knew could be achieved. No more excel spreadsheets for this girl!

My most recent project, along with many others has been to streamline our lead generation and order entry process. This project  hasn’t just been a labor of love, but of fierce determination and stubbornness. It has taken MANY hours, countless emails, several arguments (with only myself and with others), a kick ass team and huge amount ofimg_2397 brain power.

This project reached about 95% completion today, after 3 FULL days of testing and brainstorming, many conversations that had many different workflow variations, several ideas and determination… today the whole system FINALLY WORKED! I may have done a celebratory dance in my home office, the cats participated… it was awesome…. But this achievement didn’t come without a lesson.

I learned that in order to get things done properly, you need to use the resources and brain power available to you. I learned you cannot make rash demands or implementation, because what I think will work, may not work for the rest of my team or the organization. I learned it is important to look for a solution that will benefit the entire organization and make everyone’s life easier. I learned arguing won’t get me anywhere, but finding solutions and looking for alternatives will.. I learned that I have come very far in terms of growth and personal development, but I still have a ways to go.

So as I continue to grow as a woman, and Girl Boss, I will continue to have aspirations and goals. I will continue to fight through and learn so that someday I can be a kick ass #GirlBoss!

Love Always,

#GirlBoss in Training

Call me the Method (wo)Man!

Note: As I sit here writing this, I am enjoying the first “fall” evening, sitting on my porch in shorts and a sweatshirt drinking a nice cold glass of Coconut Tequila and Seltzer….Which I 100% earned, being that I completely torn my house apart today…

  • 5 trash bags
  • 2 full bags for donation
  • 2 full bags for friends
  • 4 swifter clothes
  • Countless Paper Towels
  • And a bottle of All-Purpose Method Cleaner

It was a full day to say the least.

Started out the day with a visit from my Auntie (N), now folks, she isn’t just my aunt (mothers sister) but she is without a doubt one of my favorite people on this earth… Because of our close nature, I consider her more of a Big Sister than Aunt. She is the Loreali to my Rory, the Nutella to my Fluff, the Bert to my Ernie and the Thelma to my Louise.

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The best part is, she lives only 45 minutes away! The worst part is our lives are too F*&King busy to ever see each other. So when the opportunity for her to come visit me for the morning presented itself, we jumped at the chance…

We cuddled with kitten, sipped our coffee and caught up in person (while she knit) on the porch and enjoyed the FANTASTIC Fall morning!

After her departure and then another hour spent on the porch, watching my man friend do yard work… (Man Shit)… I decided I should take this gift of a day off and put it to good use… So. I Cleaned… What started out as a routine Saturday cleaning, turned into an all out, all day house clean, purge and organize. Seriously, my house is so freaking clean right now its ridiculous… Too bad it won’t last more than the night. (Cats are like toddlers)…

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FALL IS MY FAVORITE

After giving the house a good clean, I methodically (get it) cleaned every surface of the kitchen, threw out 85% of the fridge and freezer contents.. Then cleaned the fridge… Again with my new best friend Method Cleaner. <== No this isn’t an ad… I just am obsessed with it.

Side Bar: Method Products have become my obsession because they have no harsh chemicals in them and are safe for use around curious kittens… I use their hand soap, dish soap, cleaning products and detergent!!

After the kitchen, I moved the party upstairs to my Office / Girl Room / Closet… I swapped out my Summer and Fall wardrobes (ALL THE SWEATERS AND BOOTS!!!!!) And then proceeded to toss into a pile all the things i haven’t worn in a year…

Each season I go through my clothing pretty ruthlessly…. Especially since i continue to buy more (oops).

If I keep an item the previous year thinking ill wear it, and I haven’t… Its gone…

I’ve done this religiously for the past couple years and have gotten better and more ruthless each year.

My sweet neighbor in particular LOVES this, because she reaps the benefits!

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After going through my closet, organizing my shoes, purging of shoes i never wear or are in need of retirement, I moved onto cleaning and organizing my bags… The amount of shit I find in my purses is insane…

 

 

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  • 6 Lara Bars
  • 4 Packs of Almonds
  • $2 in Change
  • Parking Ticket
  • 3 Lip Sticks
  • 1 Lip Pencil
  • Hand Cream
  • Purrell
  • Receipts
  • Outlet chargers for phone house and car
  • Pepper Spray
  • Old Business Cards
  • Earrings
  • Bracelets
  • Socks

And the list could go on….

From there I finished picking up my office… Then tackled my jewelry… Pretty sure chokers are in again right??? Oh 2002, How I miss you! #TiffanyForLife

Moving On, Now for the Bedroom!.

Starting out thinking I was just going to go through my drawers turned into another FULL bag of clothes for donation… And organizing and going through ALL of my man friends shirts and socks.

  • I threw away more socks with holes in them, than I care to mention…. I promise… He won’t miss them

I also went through my own sock drawer and when I sifted through all the pantyhose card board and tags from bras, I found out I have a TON of socks!!!!

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I AM THE SOCK MONSTER!

I organized his T-Shirts (by sports team of course) and removed shirts that he no longer wears, but put them into storage for fear the hold SOME unforeseen sentimental value…

I then cleaned out his closet… Organized the sheets, organized my sweatshirts and threw away pillows we haven’t used in a year… Seriously, why was I holding onto them???

I swifter’d under the bed… just for good measure… I then made a 3rd cat from all the hair and dust bunnies…. Her name is Dusty.

For my final trick, I organized the coat closet, hung up snow suits and got rid of 2 of my 10 coats, because I NEVER wore them last year… Which means I won’t wear them this year…

I properly hung my scarves, made sure all my custom Pam Grushkin Knits items were all nice and neat for the upcoming winter and that the mans snow removal snow Armour was properly hung up.

Never in my entire life have I felt more relaxed, zen, satisfied and exhausted. This was seriously the BEST. DAY. EVER!

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Zen & Kitten Cuddles…. BEST DAY EVER.