28 is really close to 30…

I turn 28 on Sunday. Which honestly, I don’t know if I’m super excited for or super scared for.

27, was a pretty crazy year with some incredible Highs and super terrible lows.

The love of my life asking me to *finally* marry him, celebrating our engagement party (this past weekend) with our family and friends, paying off my tax & credit card debt, planning our wedding, making a significant dent in the principle of my student loans (after reading the Total Money Make Over”, major birthday celebrations, a girls trip to Sonoma Valley, making some pretty incredible new friends and bringing home our second fur baby were among the highest of the highs, I’ve ever experienced in my entire life.

But there were also some of the lowest lows… There was uncertainty, stress, anxiety and depression. There was stress about money (when is there not) and the all consuming thought that I will NEVER pay off my student loans… There was the desire to have a mental breakdown when life & work got to be too much and at points throughout the year becoming a person I didn’t know, nor liked very much at all!

I became a bundle of stress, anxiety and depression – I put on weight, my skin broke out and I was all consumed by life, but mainly the fact that I was just waiting for the next step and had no idea or control over when it came… Wondering all the W’s consumed my thoughts, conversations, emotions and every little ounce of me…

Waiting to get engaged was one of the hardest experiences (yes I’m aware how fortunate I am) I’ve ever had to go through. As a TYPE A – uber planner, not knowing when, where, how nearly killed me… But in the end, it was SO FUCKING WORTH IT.

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My best advice to those going through this currently… Hold out… The best guys take their time to truly think things through.

In hindsight, which is a bitch for always being 20/20, I am so very grateful he did it when HE and he alone was ready, because I know in my heart of hearts he wants to spend his life with me, just as much as I want to spend it with him and THAT is where my sureness and calmness comes from, the comfort of it all…

(When in doubt, hug something fluffy)

I am glad I never (truly) resorted to ultimatums (which wouldn’t have worked anyway, nor would I want to start my future as partners like that) and despite the fact that I couldn’t see it then, I am glad things unfolded as they did. Naturally, Organically, and right for US.

The minute we got engaged and A asked me to share the rest of his life with him, all the stress of the past year faded away. People began to tell me I looked “lighter” and was “glowing”… I seemed “Different” and “Calm”…

As a normally chaotic mess of a human, my best friend E, just last week told me I seemed “very calm” and while she didn’t want to question it, was slightly concerned… To which I replied, its a good thing, all feels right…

Which was all 100% true. Having that ring on my finger, hearing the words “Will You Marry Me” and the free reign to plan a wedding… thus taking the next steps towards our future gave me a sureness, certainty and a level of calm I can never explain. I TRULY believe I was meant to be married and having a partner to make life decisions with feels right.

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Major Shout out to my Girlfriends, Mom, Aunt & Sisters for dealing with my chaotic self during this period of time. Being on the other side, I thank you for you being my sounding board and calming presence in my life.

Additional and even MAJOR Shout out to A, for whom STILL wants to marry me after seeing me at what I am pretty sure was my worst over the past 12 months… *Insert Rolling Eye Emoji*

So, as I approach the fateful day (June 25th) of turning 28, I say… BRING. IT. FUCKING. ON! Bring it ON! 27 was another year of true adult growing pains, and while at the end of each year, I feel I have a better handle on this whole ADULTING & life thing, I can honestly say after this past year, I’ve got this thing on lock down…. (but seriously though, I have no idea what i’m doing, I’m making it up as I go along… :)) . 28 is going to be the most magical, incredible and LIFE CHANGING year… I can’t wait to see what it has in store for me, other than the one known truth that on 9.8.2018, I will be gaining a husband, another set of parents & siblings and another last name…. Because really, one just isn’t enough sometimes…

Friendly PSA… Pinterest tells all. the. LIES

So, you get engaged! YAY!! You set a date! DOUBLE YAY! You plan the entire wedding… TRIPLE YAY!! Your Fiancé agrees to do engagement pictures and you finalize your awesome photographer! Check. Mate. I WIN!

You do TONS of research on the most reliable source for outfit planning… Pinterest. DUH.

You decide where to have the pictures and find the “perfect dress” from LuLu’s (which is the greatest site for dresses… seriously, don’t let my poor choices affect your great fashion!)… You get your hair and makeup done by the ever fabulous Glow Girls and your picture day has the best weather Boston has seen all spring!

Your man dresses in the color coordination you’ve planned, and you set out for a funfilled day of photos in the city!

You take pics in all the traditional poses you’ve sent the photographer from pinterest. You spend the day holding hands and “casually” walking down the pathways in Beacon Hill, you avoid the protests in the city, find the most adorable little streets that depicts Boston in all its glory, you realize that kissing in public is pretty freaking awkward and your guy has the most soulful eyes… which I can honestly say I’ve never spent all that much time staring into!

You get your photos the next day (because your photographer is awesome) and you realize 2 things… One. You made the right decision in picking your photographer, because your photos are gorgeous and Two. that you REALLY MESSED UP in your outfit choice…

FLOWY DRESSES ARE NOT YOUR FRIEND! 

WHY. DIDN’T. ANYONE. TELL. ME…………

Ok, Fine, Lesson learned… in all fairness the results were pretty adorable and we got some pretty perfect pics for the purpose of the shoot – the save the dates….

Forever I will keep in mind and share for the greater good the following…. DO NOT WEAR FLOWY DRESSES TO A PHOTO SHOOT. YOU WILL LOOK LIKE A BIG PURPLE GRAPE AND WILL HATE YOURSELF COME PROOFING TIME.

On the upside… I’m pretty sure it has finally given me the push over the edge of motivation I needed to get back to the gym!!

Summary:

MAJOR PSA: Flowy Dresses are NOT for Photo Shoots!

Pinterest Poses: Not cute unless you’re like MODEL hot

Photo Shoots: Awakward AF…

Results: Adorbs

Check out how cute we are!!!! More to Follow!

But WHAT IS a wedding diet…

Ok. So. I’ve become that girl… I’ve become that girl I loved to talk to but secretly hated… I’ve become that girl who is so insanely in love, happy, excited and can ONLY talk about her wedding…

I’m so happy, relaxed and stress-free that people have begun telling me I look like I’ve lost weight. Which I haven’t but THANK YOU SO MUCH! I’m so happy that all I want to do is talk about our wedding, the future, the exciting plans, dresses, wedding favors & veils.

I’m so happy, that I am even annoying myself…. Except hardly even at all. But I have come to know that I does overly bother some… So, If my happiness bothers you, you find it annoying or choose to spend your time “counting” how many Relfies (ring selfies) I post…. Feel free to un-follow me. Don’t have time for that negativity!

In my excitement, I’ve managed to plan our entire wedding in 2 months. Like Locked & Loaded… Venue (DONE), DJ (DONE), Photographer (DONE), Dress (DONE)… Engagement Party (delegated), Bridesmaids (Asked), Wedding Date (Set)…

The rest is just semantics… Invitations, Gifts, Favors, Etc…

Needless to say I’ve been a very busy girl, on top of all that planning, etsy purchasing, pinterest searching and wedding talk talking, I’ve also been busy working my TWO jobs… NBD but ya no, I also managed to build a brand new, kick ass website for our company! Shameless Plug <– Check it out! Its awesome!

In all my working, planning and living of life, I’ve let my exercise really fall off… There was also that week I was in a walking boot, for spraining my foot after dropping a metal baking sheet on it…. (what is life…) But for the most part, I’ve just been a lazy POS… From my lapse in workouts, among other personal things, I’ve now unfortunately begun to notice an increase in my waist line! Its shocking that if you continue to eat like an asshole and DON’T work out you will get fat!!! WHO THE F*&K knew!!!!

I also realized thanks to my ever reality checking and Dave Ramsey supporting friend L, that when I miss one of my 12 classes as Synergy & don’t make it up that month, I am throwing away $30 dollars… Which as she so incredibly put is 3 bottles of wine or 10 Coffees (from Dunks) or 1 manicure… That REALLY registered with me and I now am hitting the reset button and recommitting…

And if its on the internet it has to be true… So here I go.

Here is my vow to recommit to my fitness & health…. I need to say I Do to me, before I say I Do to A… and G-d help me, I will be 20 lbs lighter on my wedding day, because

  1. I vow to drink LESS during the week… Choosing Water over Wine (but really tequila) and not indulging on a just a random Wednesday night…
  2. I vow to pay more attention to my unhealthy carb and sugar intake… Cutting out the bread whenever possible and just having a burger on lettuce… Everything in moderation is my life motto.
  3. I vow to make better decisions, but still enjoy my life! I also will NOT be bringing back #AlyCooks, so eating whatever my wonderful man makes, but everything in moderation!
  4. I vow to work out 3-4 times a week and getting my (squat fearing) ass to Synergy, where I get my butt kicked EVERY SINGLE TIME!
  5. I vow to eat more meals per day and eating at home every meal possible! One thing i realized is that I really don’t eat enough during the day… which apparently is not healthy!
  6. I vow to eat less fried foods, pizza & tacos… well… Maybe….

If there is a limit to how many times a reset button can be hit…. Don’t tell me!

Here we go again!

 

 

 

The Dating Game of Wedding Planning.

Ok, so you find the guy… you get to know each other, you date for 6.5 years and get engaged… But then the REAL dating begins and you realize, finding the person you want to spend your life with was the easiest part of the whole ordeal!

You have to date the venues, the photographer, the DJ, the dresses, the florist, etc… You go on so many dates, just hoping to find the right vendor that makes you tingly in all the right places. You read all the reviews, look at the pictures and go on so many dates you begin mix up names, and begin to forget who you emailed and who you haven’t.

There really needs to be a tinder for vendors. Like you write your bio… put your budget and then you swipe until you match with the right vendor! That would make the whole process SO much easier! 20170311_162939000_iOS

PS. The Knot Binder in my hand —-> Is ABSOLUTE LIFE… The Knot makes everything SO much easier and organized… My Type A personality is OBSESSED!

While dating around though, your fiancé puts you on a very short leash and makes you really do your homework to have multiple options to choose from. Which is a VERY good thing, since I get SO overly excited, I am basically a golden retriever and want to jump on every new thing because I just LOVE IT ALL!!!!

Since getting engaged, I am learning so much more about being an adult and taking my time, being thorough and really thinking things through…

Then… Comes the real fun… Making your guest list…. Which is the moment you realize you have 8500 cousins, your parents have 10,000 friends, and you have way more friends than you thought you did. But who do you cut? How do you keep your guest list from getting out of control and where do you draw the line? When you’re buying your family and friends a very expensive dinner you really need to be selective :(.

The invention of the secondary list is a godsend, and you get real good at determining who would bring you joy to see at your wedding and who is only on the list because you were friends for a hot second!

The best part is, not only do you have your guy to help you through this dating process, but you have your sisters, best friends, parents and every bridal article and website around!

You also have Etsy to order adorable boxes to ask your bridesmaids… So EXCITED to finally make it official and ask my besties to stand by me!

The fun is just beginning, and naturally I am hitting the ground running, after being engagement for a month, since I’ve only been dreaming of this day for my entire life.

But its all leading up to the BEST. DAY. EVER. and even though dating is exhausting its all so worth it, because you get to marry your best friend and party the night away with all your closest friends and family!… Also makes you VERY grateful you found your person ❤

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Countdown is ON…

So, today, Tuesday, February 28th, we’ve offi20170225_131941208_ioscially been engaged for 2 weeks… 2 Whole Weeks of bliss, happiness, and all the glowy feels.

To say this has been an incredibly weird time in life, would be an understatement. In these past 2 weeks, we’ve celebrated love and mourned the loss of a life. We’ve been congratulated while saying goodbye and toasted to both our love along to the ending of an incredibly long life.

I’ve learned a lot about at life in these past 2 weeks but I’ve learned even more about myself, my man and this crazy thing called love.

I’ve learned that our love is probably the strongest there is, I’ve learned that wedding planning is overwhelming and that if you 20170222_222335923_iostake it in bite size chunks it makes it much easier… It also helps to plan on getting married 20 months from now! I’ve also learned that everyone has a tip or piece of advice and its helpful to listen, make notes and take it all into consideration.

I’ve learned that dreams do come true, and I cannot WAIT to marry this man! I can’t wait to look a venues, taste all the cake, sample all the foods and plan the greatest most magical wedding ever!

I’ve always been told wedding planning is one of the most joyful, incredibly stressful and wonderful times in a young couples life… And that couldn’t be more true.

Finally and most importantly I’ve learned that communication is key and that at the end of the day, this wedding is about US, our love, our future and nobody else!

 

 

#CheersToTheCarters

What a week its been!!! 20170215_104859000_ios

One week ago today my LONG time boyfriend asked me to marry him and share the rest of his life. I freaked out so hard, I made him ask me a second time so I could hear him say it!

It was the sweetest proposal, and exactly how I would have wanted it, because it was so perfectly US!

I got back from FL Monday night, after a long trip (think…planes, trains and automobiles) Woke up Tuesday as per usual and started my day. I greeted my guy, gave him my valentines day card and then went to work…20170215_110212692_ios

It was a perfectly normal day, which is typical for us, we’re not big on the hallmark holidays and don’t usually do much, nor have we exchanged gifts in YEARS! Which is why I was TOTALLY caught off guard when I walked into the house after running errands in the evening, to find a gift bag on the coffee table and a shit eating grin on his face!

Here is the exact conversation that transpired!

Me: Hey! What’s this?

A: I don’t know, close your eyes and reach into the bag…

Me: *Still not reaching in*, What is it though?

A: Just reach in!

Me: *Reaches into bag, pulls out box*…. WHATS THIS?

A: Open It! *Grinning in the cutest way ever*

Me: *Opens box* OMG are you serious????? *Continues to freak the Fuck out!*

A: Will you Marry Me?

Me: *Goes over and kisses him and I THINK I said Yes… and sits down cheesin so hard…*

Me: Say it again!

A: What?

Me: You have to ask me again, I need to hear it again…

A: Will you Marry Me? *puts ring on finger*

Me: Yes!!!!!!!!!!

Kisses, Hugs then I proceeded to gallop around the house screaming “We’re GETTING MARRIED”

My Fiancé (you see that???) then went and made dinner and I proceeded to call the entire world!

It was the most perfect proposal EVER! I couldn’t have thought up a better or more romantic way and I was completely caught off guard because NEVER in a million years would I expect him to do it on Valentine’s Day20170214_223516296_ios

I don’t think I’ve ever been so ridiculously, goofily happy in my entire life. I felt like I was in a euphoric state where I just couldn’t stop smiling and felt utterly relaxed.

We then popped champagne, a bottle I’ve been waiting to drink since my 25th Birthday and saving for this occasion….

Naturally, I had ordered a sign off Etsy back in August for the perfect Photo Op of the kitties making their own announcement…. I know, I am insane.

I CAN’T believe it still! After nearly 7 years, we are FINALLY Getting Married!!!!

I can’t wait to marry this man and spend the rest of my life with him ❤