God, I’d hate to be that Turkey!

Summary of the story? I am Thankful I am not the turkey on the table, but that the turkey sacrificed its life to be the center piece of this delicious meal!

I had just told him, he was NOT invited to Thanksgiving Dinner and would have to stay home… He was not happy…

Today, I called my grandparents to wish them a Happy Thanksgiving, since I won’t see them and wanted to make sure I was able to catch up with them before the holiday. (I know what you’re thinking… I am the best granddaughter ever… Its really hard being SO perfect and the golden child!)

Naturally they all asked “How are you?” To which I answered honestly, truthfully and surprisingly, “REALLY AMAZING.” It made me think, for the first time in my life, I can honestly say I am truly happy and mostly content. I have an awful lot to be thankful for and thought it would be nice to express this gratitude on the eve of the day of  we give thanks!

I think sometimes we forget how much we have to be thankful for, we get caught up in the nuances and minor catastrophes of our every day lives that we don’t always see the big picture and how much we actually have to be grateful for! I encourage, and implore you, as I have here, to take a moment and think about that you’re thankful for… Its OK if its in-between the turkey and the apple pie or after your 3rd mimosa, just making sure you do it. It is humbling and a nice reminder of all you have…Count your blessings on this day, because it is, after all, the reason the Turkey gave its life!

I am thankful for:

  1. I am thankful my very handsome, smart and patient Boyfriend, who loves me and is the rock I need to stabilize my rather chaotic existence.
  2. I am thankful for my Parents, for mainly giving me life, but for also everything else under the sun and for always being there for me and for being my best friends!
  3. I am thankful my Sisters who are the craziest people I know, and are absolutely, smart, beautiful and incredible! I wouldn’t be me without their crazy asses.
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    BUT WHY ARE THEY SO CUTE???? #KittenGoals #Blessed

    I am thankful my adorable and insanely fluffy fur babies, without whom life would be incredibly boring

  5. I am thankful for the addition this year of Dash to our family. We didn’t know it, but he was what was missing from our little family!
  6. I am thankful my Grandparents who I am very fortunate to have 2 sets of and who are incredibly strong guiding forces in my life
  7. I am thankful my incredibly generous In-Laws, being 150 miles from my own parents, I am very grateful to them so close by, should I need a “parent”.
  8. I am thankful my Close Girlfriends who I can always count on to enable my crazy
  9. I am thankful for my Close Girlfriends who I can always count on to defuse my crazy
  10. I am thankful for The Loreali to my Rory
  11. I am thankful for My Aunts, Uncles and Cousins
  12. I am thankful that fact that Gilmore Girls is coming back for 6 hours of Stars Hallow greatness!
  13. I am thankful that I am able to work / do a job I love and build something incredible with my family and boyfriend. I am so proud of where we are today and how far we’ve come! It is truly special what we’ve built and the best is yet to come!
  14. I am thankful for the fact that Greys Anatomy is on its 13th Season and STILL going strong!20161119_165230414_ios
  15. I am thankful that there are regular Harry Potter Marathons on Freeform (ABC Family)
  16. I am thankful for Netflix and that Binge watching is a socially acceptable thing and encouraged
  17. I am thankful for the foliage and living in beautiful New England
  18. I am thankful that Tequila is “Good for you”
  19. I am thankful that I found a workout plan that works for me and I LOVE doing!!
  20. I am thankful pizza is LIFE as are cheeseburgers and Tacos… #TacoLife
  21. I am thankful for my beautiful, warm home
  22. I am thankful to be able to live in the greatest city on earth (one that I definitely don’t take advantage of…)
  23. I am thankful to be able to give awesome holiday gifts this season to my loved ones and to have the ability to work and earn and pay my bills as well!
  24. I am thankful for my bed and cuddly kitten in said bed
  25. I am thankful for my life
  26. I am thankful for my loves
  27. I am thankful.

What’re you thankful for???

These kitties give me life…. And the best cuddles!

Eighty. One.

20161104_201757096_iosToday, on SATURDAY…I went to a training session class. After taking 2 weeks off from working out, while plagued with a flu-ish sinus infection, and not loving the 7 new lbs on my body from not working out and eating crap :(. I felt the need to kick my ass into gear, which requires additional classes!

As I got back in my car to drive the half mile home from the gym… I couldn’t help but think about the class I had just had at Synergy and the eighty-one year old woman I just met.

I LOVE working out at Synergy, you get a personal trainer, one-on-one attention and the group atmosphere for a fraction of the cost a single personal trainer would charge. But what I love most about going to this gym is that I have met some incredible women during my classes and am thoroughly enjoying the diversity this studio yields. My town is a large city, but has a VERY small town feel, since EVERYONE knows EVERYONE! Especially working at a neighborhood bar, I ALWAYS run into someone I know / or share a common connection!


Today’s class had one woman in her 30’s (who actually happens to be the Aunt of an acquaintance, love the small town feel) and a older woman (I guessed in her late 60’s early 70’s). After the 2nd strength and weight segment, which had some mat work, I noticed the older woman was squatting and wasn’t getting up as easily. I went over and asked if she needed a hand up. She gratefully accepted, noting that she was light headed.

I stayed by her for a moment, until she said she was OK, she then told me she had just changed her blood pressure medicine and getting up was difficult sometimes.

We went onto our cardio segment and got to talking. She stated that she recently had a fall, while trying to save a lamp and that combined with the change in blood pressure medicine was making her a little light headed at times… The fact that she was 81 had nothing to do with it!

EIGHTY-ONE… I was blown away! EIGHTY-ONE YEARS OLD and working out with twenty/thirty somethings! I said that I hope to be in as good of shape at the same age, she said, she wished she had started working out like this at my age. I told her I will continue, to aspire to be as fit as she is when I am 81 years old!

*Side bar: she held the plank for 45 seconds without problem… I couldn’t even do that for the whole time without breaking… 

We continued talking, she told us that she has been coming to Synergy for 9 years (coming 3x a week), is a lifetime weight watchers member, does 10,000 steps a day (averaging 30 flights of stairs), does yoga once a week and lives a very active lifestyle. She has 4  grown kids, who live all over the country, several grandchildren, she and her husband have been married for 60+ years and just traveled to Europe this past year. While she is in perfect health, she mentioned her husband, while still VERY active (working until 3 years ago as an engineer) is in very poor health. Which won’t let them travel as much anymore. 20161105_011015470_ios


I couldn’t believe it. She was not only was in impeccable shape and held her own during the workouts, modifying when necessary, but was sharp as a tact and told me she had met some VERY impressive women named Aly… Including myself.

I don’t want to jump the gun, but I may have just made a new BFF… My only regret was that I didn’t get a picture with her…

Oh well, Maybe next time!

What inspires or gives you motivation?


The cat pics have nothing to do with the post except for the fact that humanity sucks and cats are cute…

Today I am sick… As I am most of the fall and early winter. Some pe20161023_002206562_iosople get strep, others get bronchitis or the flu.. I get sinus infections. Which are super fun because not only do the hurt like hell, make my brain mushy and make it overall difficult for me to function as a human; but they also make my face so puffy, that I look like the epitome of a sinus infection… I. AM. SINUS WOMAN.

But today I am not only sick from a sinus infection, I am sick of everything. I am sick of my friends and family on Facebook attacking each other over their politics and choice of president. I am sick of scrolling through my news feed and seeing people I love and care about posting dumb shit, just to start a riot. I am sick of the SAME stuff constantly on the news real and media stream… OK, Shit was said, done or not done… GET FUCKING OVER IT… Its over with…


While I too, am at fault for posting and engaging, I’ve stopped because my involvement doesn’t bring anything good. Involving myself in this bullshit did was waste my already too little and precious time, and caused me major anxiety. I am too smart and too busy to get wrapped up in this crap and so are ALL of you… And if you’re not, well then, can we trade places?

“Everything the light touches, is ours”

My opinion will not change yours, and yours will not change mine… Posting rhetoric, fodder and video clips from 2000 will not change it either. What boggles my mind is why the general population feel the need to put down others who don’t share their opinions. I know politics brings out the worst in people but NEVER have I felt the need to unfriend / unfollow some of my own FAMILY members and VERY CLOSE family friends… Its just disgusting! Share what you want to share, do what you want to do, but don’t attack those who don’t feel the same way in your caption…Do you feel that threatened or have such little faith in your own candidate, that you need to attack others?? Do you know that debating and putting down your family and friends probably won’t be the deciding factor in whether or not your candidate wins? Do you know that no matter who wins, we’re only stuck with that person for 4-8 years… but you’re stuck with your family, those you have insulted and viciously attacked for LIFE?

He. Is. Flawless… <3

I’ve silently sat and watched as my own family has attacked one-another and to be honest. I was pretty saddened by it. They will tell you its the name of the game and all in good fun, but family should agree to disagree or stick by one another. Not attack, belittle and ridicule!

My Model Girl – Princess Piper

I am sick of this election. I am sick of the candidates. I am sick of the drama and the stupidity. I am sick of the media and the constant barge of bullshit… I am sick of the conversations that happen at my bar and the fights that nearly break out over the beliefs of others…

If there is ONE thing DRUNK people should not talk about its POLITICS… I am just sick of everything.


I am sick of the negativity and hate that is going on.I am sick to my stomach on this one. I can’t handle all the awful things that are going on in our once great country. You can’t listen / watch the news or scroll through a feed without being greeted with something truly awful, followed by something else awful. I am sick of the wrongful deaths, the lack of respect for those who wear a uniform, the abused animals and kids, the shootings, the lack of respect for each other and all the fucking CLOWNS.

But really what is up with these freaking clowns? Seriously…. What other country has a “Clown” Problem and citizens who have to be told to be vigilant because clowns might pop up out of no where and attack them? When did life become a bad horror movie?

I am just so sick of it all… But mainly I am just so sad. I am losing my faith in humanity,  and deeply saddened by the lack of respect and over all common decency. So here are some cute cat pics because they’re adorable and society sucks…

Because, Love really is all you need!




The Grushkins… We’re pretty awesome…

My family is pretty special… But we’d have to be to make one of our own feel like absolute shit on their birthday, and totally unloved to then surprise them with a kick ass birthday party…

Yesterday, was my sister Genna’s 25th Birthday… and with the spearheading of her 2 oldest and bestest friends, we pulled off the greatest surprise party of all time. period.

It all started when one of her friends approached our family to see if it was something we would be into… naturally we never turn down a party, so we were totally in.

gennaeventFrom there the planning was full speed ahead. We had a venue, guest list, Facebook Event and the major over all plan in place. But of course, Genna is a complete and utter PITA, so she pestered ALL of us to know if/ what we were doing for her… Since we all said nothing… She went ahead and planned her OWN birthday party for the day after her birthday (Saturday, Today)…

We immediately got on our own Facebook Group to let them know that party was not happening, but people should RSVP anyway! As the date got closer, we made Genna feel more and more unloved… I told her I couldn’t come down for her actual BDAY and could only come Saturday. Leigha told her she couldn’t come down AT ALL and had to work all weekend. Our Parents told her they couldn’t take her out to dinner for her Bday because they had a networking function they couldn’t miss… She was so upset, it was pretty funny. Her friends were set to take her out and initially come back to our neighborhood bar for the party… But with a last minute (1 week before) venue change to somewhere she’d never go, we had to come up with a new plan on how to get her there.

The plan was revised, the guests were updated and marching orders were given. Her friends were to keep her out of the house all day and take her to dinner. Leigha and I were going to come down mid day and run all the errands to pick up all the things.. We had an Instagram board, props and a geo-filter… all the makings for a great freaking party!

Genna’s friends brilliantly set it up that Genna thought she was going to a “Grand Opening” at a new bar… and that it was ladies night…

On the day of her birthday, she called me to ask if my friend, who she knew owned the place, could “Hook them up”… My response… Totally!

I became a complete road warrior and came from Boston –> Stamford –> Westport –> Ridgefield –> Westport –> Norwalk –> Westport (almost forgot the balloons!!!!) –> Norwalk… Leigha and I got to the bar, set up, and waited…

And waited…. Did a couple shots…. Waited… Played with the photo booth and waited…

THEN FINALLY, guests came!

It was ALMOST time for the Surprise… then I get a call from Genna’s friends (who were with her) but couldn’t find the bar… Thankfully Genna thought she was on the phone with their guy friend who recommended the place!

Finally they walk in, and we GOT HER! Look at that cute face! Seeing her so happy was worth all the sadness of making her feel like crap, all the anxiety that someone would spill the beans and all the stress she put on us… 🙂 We love this girl so damn much and can’t believe how great 24 was, that we had to make sure to kick off 25 with a bang! I admire my sister so much. She has incredible strength, charisma and is beyond beautiful…

As a friend put it, she was “Glowing, you know, without being pregnant!”

Her immediate words…. I Hate you guys… What the Fuck… then to Leigha…. Fuck You! I love your dress!

She then quietly mouthed to my mom… “Am I still having my party tomorrow?”

The rest of the night was AMAZING! We had the absolute best time and couldn’t have been more grateful to Jay from MKT and his beautiful wife Danielle as well as his business partners for their hospitality and generosity! It was truly a fantastic night!

Here are the highlights…





Messy Bun, Gettin Stuff Done!

New Favorite Boost / Training Manual…. #GirlBoss by Sophia Amoruso

Past 3 days: 4 loads of Laundry (folded and put away), Clean House, Dishes done each day, worked a double (day job and night job on Tuesday), successfully completed a major project, kept up with all other responsibilities and client care, and Didn’t Lock any Cats in the CLOSET!

#GirlBossInTraining #Adulting #IGotThis #GettinItDone

Cheers to Success! 

I aspire to be a #GirlBoss. I aspire to be strong. I aspire to be confident in my convictions. I aspire to be able to convey a message without coming off as a bitch. I aspire to run a company. I aspire to be a #WomanWhoWorks, balancing home, work & life. I aspire to do it all and have it all!

Being a woman in business is hard. You have to be strong, but not too strong, You have to act look like a butterfly and sting like a bee, you have to be tough, but not too tough, you stick to your guns, but not fire them, you have to command the room, but raising your voice can make others think you’re “getting emotional”… Basically you have to find that happy medium of  steadfast, firm, friendly, direct and ALWAYS. I repeat. ALWAYS. keep. your. emotions. in. check.

When a man is steadfast, strong, direct or firm, he is held in high regard and respected… When a woman does it? She is a bitch, feisty, shrill and “just being emotional”… To add insult and injury to all of that, if the woman is young, its a complete game changer…

“Oh, she is just young…”, “She’s just trying to make her voice heard”, “She doesn’t know how to communicate, shes too naive.” “What a bitch!”

I am 27 years old, I am a woman, I am a girlfriend, daughter, sister, friend, I have a part-time job, I have a house that requires cleaning, cats that require feeding and laundry that needs to be done. My man friend has this weird desire to wear clean clothes…. Whatever… I am a director in my company and hold a job where I wear MANY hats and a lot on my plate,  I get mad, I get frustrated, I am young, I am naive, and I am still learning. Sometimes I do get stressed, sometimes I get overwhelmed, sometimes I have trouble balancing it all, sometimes I cry, sometimes life gets too hard and sometimes I get accidentally drunk on a Monday Night…. Shit Happens, ok?

As I was writing this past paragraph, this song kept playing (I’m a Bitch, By Meredith Brooks) in my head… It is officially my new theme song! “I’m a Bitch, I’m a Lover, I’m a Cat Mother, I’m a Child, I’m a Sinner, I’m a Saint… I don not feel ashamed!” Take me as I am!!

One of my many blessing in life is that I went to work for my father, right out of college, and since then nearly 6 years later, we have built something incredible! I am incredibly grateful to have a wonderful mentor and img_2442guiding force in him; because I am young and I am still learning, I am working on controlling my emotions, I am trying to make my voice heard and sometimes I do come off as a bitch… But my BIGGEST Pet Peeve is when it is used as an excuse for my behavior. Which is why I continue to learn, grow and work at better having control of all things.

I LOVE my job, I love working and building something with my family, I love my customers, I love learning about different businesses and helping them grow and most importantly I truly LOVE learning more about being a woman in business!

Over the last 5 years, I have learned and grown so much, but I still have so much to learn. I need to learn how to communicate better with the different departments and I need to learn how to make things happen so that it works for all, instead of a few.

Over the last 5 months, we’ve engaged with a new CRM system, that has completely changed how I operated. It has automated emails, sent reminders and allowed me to have all the data I need on a customer at the click of a button. I had dreams of the ability to enter information once and have it populate in multiple areas / fields. I had visions and aspirations of achieving a more streamlined administrative process, one which I knew could be achieved. No more excel spreadsheets for this girl!

My most recent project, along with many others has been to streamline our lead generation and order entry process. This project  hasn’t just been a labor of love, but of fierce determination and stubbornness. It has taken MANY hours, countless emails, several arguments (with only myself and with others), a kick ass team and huge amount ofimg_2397 brain power.

This project reached about 95% completion today, after 3 FULL days of testing and brainstorming, many conversations that had many different workflow variations, several ideas and determination… today the whole system FINALLY WORKED! I may have done a celebratory dance in my home office, the cats participated… it was awesome…. But this achievement didn’t come without a lesson.

I learned that in order to get things done properly, you need to use the resources and brain power available to you. I learned you cannot make rash demands or implementation, because what I think will work, may not work for the rest of my team or the organization. I learned it is important to look for a solution that will benefit the entire organization and make everyone’s life easier. I learned arguing won’t get me anywhere, but finding solutions and looking for alternatives will.. I learned that I have come very far in terms of growth and personal development, but I still have a ways to go.

So as I continue to grow as a woman, and Girl Boss, I will continue to have aspirations and goals. I will continue to fight through and learn so that someday I can be a kick ass #GirlBoss!

Love Always,

#GirlBoss in Training

When 2 Kids fall in Love!

Today is my parents 29th wedding anniversary. Which I find absolutely incredible, and feel beyond blessed to call these 2 humans my Mom & Dad. In an age of divorce, cheating scandals and general animosity, my parents have surpassed the norm of divorce and grow closer each year of wedded bliss!


But everyone says that don’t they? Everyone loves their parents, or at least most people do. But I can honestly say with 100% certainty, that mine are some of the best.

Let me tell you why..

  1. They’re generous. These 2 will go out of their way to help ANYONE no matter what…
  2. They raised us girls, which was no easy feat. and SURVIVED IT!
  3. They know how to have a good time… #ClubGrushkin
  4. They are always available when I need to talk, vent or cry…
  5. They have taught me, by example, how to maintain a healthy relationship and respect each others differences.
  6. They made sure I was fluent in sarcasm.
  7. They taught me how to take a joke, and poke fun at myself!
  8. They taught me / showed me what a hard work looks like and how it pays off.
  9. They taught me how important it is to Work Hard, but Play Harder
  10. They encouraged (mandated, if I wanted that extra outfit or pair of shoes) me to work at a young age and the importance of work / life balance. fam
  11. They taught me compassion and respect for others, despite differences
  12. They taught me that some people need to put others down to feel better about themselves and how important it is to rise above it… and to NOT let the turkeys get you down!
  13. They taught me how to roll with the punches (that one took a while… and we’re still working on)
  14. Most importantly they’ve given me an excellent example of how to be a parent and raise children in a loving, supportive home.

My parents are honestly 2 of my best friends and I look forward to when they move closer so we can hang out ALL THE TIME! They are my sounding boards and the reason I can go out into the unknown of adulting, because I know no matter what, they’ve got my back.

So, on this day, the day these 2 crazy kids decided to get married, I say THANK YOU. Thank you for meeting in that gym on Comm Ave, Boston… Mom, thank you for giving him a chance….Dad, thank you for choosing the RIGHT Pam…. Thank you for falling in love… Thank you for getting married…

Thank you for starting a family… Thank you for the beautiful life you built for us…. Thank you for the amazing childhood, countless vacations and a beautiful home to grow up in! Thank you for your continued guidance, support and love…. Thank you for consistently putting up with my crazy-ass emotional self…. Thank you for being an incredible example of love… AND most importantly…. Thank you for continuing to love and respect each other!

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY YOU TWO! Here’s to 29 more!!!! <3


Call me the Method (wo)Man!

Note: As I sit here writing this, I am enjoying the first “fall” evening, sitting on my porch in shorts and a sweatshirt drinking a nice cold glass of Coconut Tequila and Seltzer….Which I 100% earned, being that I completely torn my house apart today…

  • 5 trash bags
  • 2 full bags for donation
  • 2 full bags for friends
  • 4 swifter clothes
  • Countless Paper Towels
  • And a bottle of All-Purpose Method Cleaner

It was a full day to say the least.

Started out the day with a visit from my Auntie (N), now folks, she isn’t just my aunt (mothers sister) but she is without a doubt one of my favorite people on this earth… Because of our close nature, I consider her more of a Big Sister than Aunt. She is the Loreali to my Rory, the Nutella to my Fluff, the Bert to my Ernie and the Thelma to my Louise.


The best part is, she lives only 45 minutes away! The worst part is our lives are too F*&King busy to ever see each other. So when the opportunity for her to come visit me for the morning presented itself, we jumped at the chance…

We cuddled with kitten, sipped our coffee and caught up in person (while she knit) on the porch and enjoyed the FANTASTIC Fall morning!

After her departure and then another hour spent on the porch, watching my man friend do yard work… (Man Shit)… I decided I should take this gift of a day off and put it to good use… So. I Cleaned… What started out as a routine Saturday cleaning, turned into an all out, all day house clean, purge and organize. Seriously, my house is so freaking clean right now its ridiculous… Too bad it won’t last more than the night. (Cats are like toddlers)…


After giving the house a good clean, I methodically (get it) cleaned every surface of the kitchen, threw out 85% of the fridge and freezer contents.. Then cleaned the fridge… Again with my new best friend Method Cleaner. <== No this isn’t an ad… I just am obsessed with it.

Side Bar: Method Products have become my obsession because they have no harsh chemicals in them and are safe for use around curious kittens… I use their hand soap, dish soap, cleaning products and detergent!!

After the kitchen, I moved the party upstairs to my Office / Girl Room / Closet… I swapped out my Summer and Fall wardrobes (ALL THE SWEATERS AND BOOTS!!!!!) And then proceeded to toss into a pile all the things i haven’t worn in a year…

Each season I go through my clothing pretty ruthlessly…. Especially since i continue to buy more (oops).

If I keep an item the previous year thinking ill wear it, and I haven’t… Its gone…

I’ve done this religiously for the past couple years and have gotten better and more ruthless each year.

My sweet neighbor in particular LOVES this, because she reaps the benefits!





After going through my closet, organizing my shoes, purging of shoes i never wear or are in need of retirement, I moved onto cleaning and organizing my bags… The amount of shit I find in my purses is insane…





  • 6 Lara Bars
  • 4 Packs of Almonds
  • $2 in Change
  • Parking Ticket
  • 3 Lip Sticks
  • 1 Lip Pencil
  • Hand Cream
  • Purrell
  • Receipts
  • Outlet chargers for phone house and car
  • Pepper Spray
  • Old Business Cards
  • Earrings
  • Bracelets
  • Socks

And the list could go on….

From there I finished picking up my office… Then tackled my jewelry… Pretty sure chokers are in again right??? Oh 2002, How I miss you! #TiffanyForLife

Moving On, Now for the Bedroom!.

Starting out thinking I was just going to go through my drawers turned into another FULL bag of clothes for donation… And organizing and going through ALL of my man friends shirts and socks.

  • I threw away more socks with holes in them, than I care to mention…. I promise… He won’t miss them

I also went through my own sock drawer and when I sifted through all the pantyhose card board and tags from bras, I found out I have a TON of socks!!!!


I organized his T-Shirts (by sports team of course) and removed shirts that he no longer wears, but put them into storage for fear the hold SOME unforeseen sentimental value…

I then cleaned out his closet… Organized the sheets, organized my sweatshirts and threw away pillows we haven’t used in a year… Seriously, why was I holding onto them???

I swifter’d under the bed… just for good measure… I then made a 3rd cat from all the hair and dust bunnies…. Her name is Dusty.

For my final trick, I organized the coat closet, hung up snow suits and got rid of 2 of my 10 coats, because I NEVER wore them last year… Which means I won’t wear them this year…

I properly hung my scarves, made sure all my custom Pam Grushkin Knits items were all nice and neat for the upcoming winter and that the mans snow removal snow Armour was properly hung up.

Never in my entire life have I felt more relaxed, zen, satisfied and exhausted. This was seriously the BEST. DAY. EVER!

Zen & Kitten Cuddles…. BEST DAY EVER.